Here is the deal if you’re left thinking why doesn’t my boyfriend want to have sex with me?:
Hopefully he’s not deficient as a man! But he may well be deficient in key manly vitamins and nutrients that mean he loses his appetite for sex to some degree or entirely. If a man is low in Zinc it can play havoc with his testosterone levels meaning that his apparent disinterest for you in the bedroom is nothing to do with you but to do with a medical issue he needs to address. If you suspect nutrient and vitamin deficiencies may be the culprit: get him tested by insisting he has blood work done. While your at it, get his magnesium levels tested too to ensure he’s not low in that one – another key nutrient that directly affects how interested he is in sex.
Men have varying levels of testosterone. You should be careful to ensure his are at an acceptable, healthy level. Some guys have skyrocketed testosterone, it’s just a gift of god, and they’ll be horny and wanting sex all the time but if you’re asking ‘why doesn’t my boyfriend want to have sex with me?’, start with getting his key vitamin levels and testosterone tested and go from there…
Check out my article on ‘love potions’ to turn him on and replace key nutrients.
He’s self conscious
Women make men self conscious. It’s a genetic fact of the universe. Men feel on their toes around women and like they need to impress them. ‘Good’ so say all of us at MMH. They should be trying to impress you but some times a man’s desire to perform well can go to far and it can inhibit his sexual drive. Perhaps he can’t get it up when he’s around you because he has performance anxiety. Maybe he has body image issues. Perhaps he has a tiny penis or micropenis (it’s not the size that count, it’s what you do with it – but there are limits).
How to address self-conciousness. Corrective action works best. If he needs to shed a few points, tell him, insist that he gets down the gym. Tell him your dissatisfied. This can be hard but honesty is the best policy with guys. Force him to lift weights and get in shape else tell him you’ll leave him.
The strains of modern life mean extended work hours, business travel and emails 24 hours to respond to with the advent of cell phones. It’s not like it used to be when a man would come home from a hard 7 hour-day at the plant, turn on the TV and have his spare mental capacity devoted to keeping his woman happy in the bedroom. No sir. times have changed. If he is working anywhere other than Five Guys, he will be on call most of the time, jobs are typically high pressured.
He may not be losing interest in you, he may just be distracted by ridiculous work demands and pressures. The solution to this is not easy. I always want a guy that takes things in his stride and doesn’t get too bothered by things. If he’s up late at night worrying about his job, is he a man or a mouse? Do you want to be with a guy that is stressed all the time or a guy that is cool calm and collected. If you want to know why doesn’t my boyfriend want to have sex with me? Look at his job status and suggest he changes things up and fast.
He’s not right for you
The cosmic universe dictates who you click with and who you don’t. Sometimes a guy comes along that not many of your friends think is attractive but you can see something in him that others can’t – something just clicks. If things just ain’t clicking and your left wondering why doesn’t my boyfriend want to have sex with me? Then look into the stars and ask God, ‘is this man really right for me, do we have chemestry?’ – your heart will do the rest.
You just know if things aren’t right. It’s no secret that the best sex to be had is with men you saw and instantly found attractive. It’s very binary, either you have amazing chemistry with a guy or you don’t. If you’re with the wrong man, then he very likely will feel that and not want to consistently have sex with you. Don’t get upset, break up with him and move on to someone in respect of which the stars do align.
The harsh answer to why doesn’t my boyfriend want to have sex with me?: you’ve put on weight
Harsh truth is a lot of girls get comfortable with their men and start shovelling spoonfuls of Ben&Jerries into their mouths without thinking of the consequences. If you’ve put on a tonne of weight recently or you’re a bit flabby around the edges, is it any wonder why my boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex with me? NO – take positive action. We’ve got a whole bunch of female friendly advice on this topic so don’t be lazy:
You’re not submissive enough
If you’re left wondering why doesn’t my boyfriend want to have sex with me? Get more submissive. We have a staggering amount of data on this. Girls love to be dominated whereas guys love a submissive girl. This is human nature. If you feel like he’s never taking enough initiative then you need to read this post. If you want him to give you dominant sex you need this.
He’s cheating on you
The sad fact is it can actually be quite sexy when other girls are courting your man’s attention. If they are clawing at his shirt buttons in clubs, congratulations you’ve got a high quality man. BUT – it comes with the risk he will fall prey to the charms of other girls. If he is sleeping behind your back with other chicks then the chances are your sex life will be diminished or you will sense that something is wrong. Address this like a woman: speak the truth and confront him about it.
BTW, if you’ve tried all that and are still wondering why doesn’t my boyfriend want to have sex with me? and want to really hook him into giving you great sex again, try this.